The Season for Love – a bond between parent’s and kid’s:
When you think about romance in winter does one think of snuggles by the fire, sipping on red wine or hot chocolate and lying on a sheepskin rug? Or are you parent-ified enough to know that winter can be the least sexy of the seasons, particularly once you are dealing with the winter bugs the kids inevitably bring home topped off with your un-sexiest of flannelette pyjamas and slippers.
According to counselor and relationship expert, Aboutparentandkid.com , there is actually science, and not just snotty kids, behind the dwindling romance we can experience in winter.
“Our energy levels have been lower
during the cold winter months and this tends to affect our mood. Both of these factors make it harder for us to maintain a healthy, loving relationship.
The shortage of daylight in the colder seasons also diminishes our levels of serotonin making us crankier than in the warmer months.”
But the news is good! “When spring comes around we start to spend more time outside. Being in the sun raises our levels of both serotonin and vitamin D, making us feel more like making love not war,” she adds.
So now, as the weather warms up and we start to get those feel-good hormones rising, it is the perfect time to make the most of it and spend time nourishing our relationships. But if you’re in a very dip, knowing where to
start can be the hardest part.
In The Season for Love – About Parent and kid offers these tips:
1. Start small by making the most out of being together and creating bubbles of intimacy throughout the day.
2. Have kid-free conversations.
3. Stay in touch during the day. Text to say hi, share discoveries, like a movie you would like to see together, a newspaper article that you read.
4. Try new things together, taking a walk or joining forces to volunteer for a shared favorite charity.
5. making out in front of the kids, but being affectionate keeps you connected and shows the children a very important part of your relationship.
6. Make pleasure a priority. Spontaneity is lots of fun, but realistically a minimum of if you intend for intimate time together, you’ll get it.
7. Don’t be a martyr. Each of you doing your fair share of the housework means you’ll both have more energy, less resentment, and be happier to make time for one another Sounds simple right? And I think that is half the problem for many people in our relationships, and busy mum lives.
The simple and easy things often lose way to the big and difficult things. Or we just become so overwhelmed with it all that we do nothing. We are told to eat the frog, and attack the most important task every day , but instead we just swirl the tadpoles, or the small things, around eventually
spitting them out because we are too afraid to take action. Sound familiar?
Until my wife and I became parents we had barely had a fight. Sure there was the time I stormed out of the room after he innocently questioned the seating chart I had spent hours drawing up for our wedding, but that
was about as serious as it got. And I hold that anything said or wiped out the 2 weeks before marriage cannot be used against you, ever.
As soon as kids come along the stakes get higher. There is something else pulling at our attention, a little person we both care about so deeply, we would like the most effective for them. Our energy diverts to that person, and away from each other. It’s normal right? Our kids have to come first?
But in line with about parent and kid, we’d like to revisit our priorities. “When it comes to raising happy kids, its happy parents that make it happen. Creating harmonious families is vital in creating a more peaceful happy world.
A strong bond between parents is the heart of a cheerful family. No matter how sacrilegious it sounds, you need to put your relationship before your children. after that, a strong love or The Season for Love will be created.